To be fair, G didn't really articulate any CF orientation/decision. She was never into babies or really small kids and never, ever articulated any wish to be a parent. Of course, queer people getting married and raising kids wasn't even an option when G was growing up, so maybe that affected things for her. I was going purely on what I saw (likely affected by my own CF bias...I always want more of us
But yeah...the parenting NEVER stops. Better her than me.
At least she and her wife seem to be somewhat old-school in that they expect to do things without the kid, and vice versa. G and I are still in touch and she clearly still has carved out time for hobbies, volunteer stuff, etc. Thank dawg. I don't think I could stomach watching her turn into what passes as a parent these days. Ick.