@Rowan: I strongly doubt that I am the only person who finds the effects of aging to reduce one's attractiveness. Also, I hate to break it to you, but I am attracted to women being potentially fertile. I do want them to take extremely strong precautions against unplanned pregnancy (up to the point of getting a bilateral salpingectomy--which would be really, really nice if they'll get it done), but as long as they keep their ovaries, things are going to be fine. I'm sure that you're going to relentlessly hammer me for allegedly objectifying women, but I don't actually have any control over what exactly I am attracted to. And Yes, the effects of aging are a turn-off--though as I said, I do find some post-menopausal women to be attractive (just less so than pre-menopausal women--or at least a lot of them).
As for marriage excluding other partners, people have the right to set whatever rules for their marriage that they want. Anyway, for me, as a result of me not being able to have sex for an extremely long time (due to sterilization concerns), I want to keep all of my sexual options open even if/after I will marry. Someone who lost their virginity at age 15 might have already had a lot of sex by my age (26) and thus might feel more comfortable with a closed marriage. This certainly isn't me, though. After my future wife will hit menopause (as well as before she will hit menopause), Yes, I am going to want to have sex with other, pre-menopausal women as well as with my post-menopausal wife.
Also, to clarify--I don't want my future female sexual partners to remove their ovaries--just their Fallopian tubes. (Though, if they want to remove their uteruses as well, more power to them!) Plus, even on this, I am going to be willing to compromise for women who I'm not going to want as my wife. (I would have been willing to compromise with my future wife as well in regards to this, but there's the risk of other men impregnating her due to the whole open marriage thing and I really, really don't want to be forced to pay child support for these other men's children.)
In addition, in regards to my fear of unplanned pregnancy, my fear is no less irrational than that of a cisgender woman who want a bilateral salpingectomy instead of a tubal ligation due to the much higher failure rate of tubal ligations. As for my willingness to engage in self-harm, well, I'm certainly not the only person who has ever engaged in self-harm or who is willing to do so in the future. Some people have cut themselves and yet are nevertheless able to find sexual partners and spouses later on. Also, I want to get a bilateral epididymectomy as well as to seek out sexual partners who are taking their own strong precautions against unplanned pregnancy in order to reduce the risk of me resorting to self-harm in the future--which is a good thing since it means that I have an active desire to avoid a situation where I will begin cutting myself once again.
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