I think people have been a little unfair to ketchup and have missed the context of her background, it is true that rape and sexual assault in India is commonplace and men are rarely , if at all, held accountable or responsible. No one is saying it's right or acceptable, just that's the way it is there...and that colours the perception of women.
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/06/25/heal ... index.html
I don't live in India, and I never have. I was born in the US. I was talking about the Indian American community. However, what you said still applies completely. Rape and sexual assault are commonplace and just a part of life for Indian American women. In fact, I personally have known several Indian American women who were threatened with honor killing after being raped. Thankfully, all escaped their families and were not murdered.
Alicorn wasn't talking about Tinder in the context of someone brought up in India or with the mores and values of living in that community. Tinder was used as a metaphor for the type of society (i.e. western) where you can call up a sexual partner by just tapping an app and what that can do to someone's perception of sex being 'on tap' anytime, anywhere.
Also, I believe she was questioning her own thoughts and potential double standards about a hypothetical son, thinking out loud as it were.
Indian Americans don't use tinder, by and large, and we have a rampant sexual assault/rape culture in our community. It has nothing to do with tinder. Sex on tap culture has nothing to do with the entitlement and sense of ownership Indian men have over women.
If you give blood ten times, you can still refuse to give it passed out at the hospital even if someone with your blood type is bleeding out right next to you. It's bodily autonomy. No one has any right to you no matter how many times you've said yes before. That's why marital rape and date rape are charges now. Because implied consent is not actual consent.
In a medical context, yes. In a sexual context, no. Continuous/ongoing consent only applies in a medical context.
I've never been raped, or even assaulted at all, yet it seems that I've done a lot in my life that should have led to both.
I've been camping with guys, gone on business trips with men, had lunches and dinners with men, ridden in cars with men, ridden on trains with men, flown on planes sitting next to men, been at the gym with all men, and been in stores with mostly men. Never been raped, never been sexually assaulted, rarely even get hit on. I doubt it's all because I'm "formidable", but rather than most men I've encountered aren't going around raping and assaulting women.
In fact, just recently, I was at home alone for two days, whilst about four to six guys have been rewiring my house, and plastering some walls. They even had a shit ton of wire with them to tie me up with, and all of them are much stronger than me. No rapes though. Come to think of it, I was probably the one struggling most to keep my hands to myself, because goddamn is one of the younger electricians positively smoking. I suppose I could just act on my fantasies and then blame him for being stupid hot, wearing that tool belt, having a great ass, and hanging out in my house. I mean, what did he think was going to happen? Seriously though, I guess I was just really lucky that the guys didn't take advantage of me, as I invited them into my house after all
If you got raped, seeing the world through my lenses, I'd have to ask myself why you put yourself in that situation to begin with. I know it sounds like victim blaming, but I just can't help but question these things.
a real conservative woman doesn't go whoring around with boys.
Boy, do they ever! They're also far more likely to get knocked up by said boys, and become teen moms too.
http://www.slate.com/articles/news_and_ ... moms_.html
Then they are hardly conservatives.