A lot of people seem to think that "Oh, you like your travel/free time/career so you didn't have kids". I was the opposite ... I decided very early that I didn't like or want kids, and that decision being made, then I looked around for something else to do. Sure, I enjoy travelling and going to the gym and sleeping in, but that's not the reason I didn't have kids. It's a pleasant byproduct.
Having kids doesn't stop you from sleeping with whoever you want. It might make the logistics a bit harder, that's all. Likewise, not needing a man has nothing to do with it either. It's the 21st century, women have kids without partners all the time.
I roll my eyes at people who try justify my CF-ness by thinking that they know anything about me, or what sort of person I am. I lump kids in the same category as brussel sprouts and house llamas. Do.Not.Want. it really is that simple. It has nothing to do with sexual freedom or childhood trauma or career focus or selfishness. Just because I don't fit in your box, doesn't mean that you need to make up crackpot theories about it.
_________________ Some people meditate. Some people caffeinate and vegetate.
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