I totally understand where you're coming from Cali, if I was a bloke I doubt I'd touch a woman unless I was absolutely, categorically convinced of her CF credentials and I'd taken my own extensive precautions.
Yeah, with the current extreme child support laws, I have to completely abstain until I can actually this procedure done--and then I'll have to do a couple of semen analyses to see if sperm will finally clear out of my system.
As you say, women have options in the case of an unplanned pregnancy, men don't, they're at the mercy of the woman concerned.....that's not a risk I'd be willing to take and I'm eternally grateful I was born female in a country where I am in control and do have choices.
Yep. Indeed, even after birth, you can exploit safe haven laws and I really don't know what your male partners are going to be capable of doing about this even if they want to raise your child themselves.
I wouldn't want to take the risk of being one of the 1% failures, especially as you won't know the procedure has failed until it's too late.
Yeah, that's the problem with figures such as 1% or even 0.1%. Due to the law of truly large numbers, at least one failure is virtually guaranteed if you'll have enough people--and that one person could just as easily be you as it could be anybody else. Also, to my knowledge, there is no insurance to cover the cost of 18+ years' worth of child support payments and even if there was, I extremely strongly fear that some idiot judge could strike down such an insurance contract on grounds of public policy (perhaps based on the extremely spurious grounds that the child could be traumatized if he finds out that the insurance company rather than his father is paying his child support).
Then, as you so rightly say, you have no alternative than get stuck with offspring you didn't want and all of the costs and aggro that comes with it.
Yep--and you could also get a good deal of slut-shaming, to boot!
I applaud that you're being so proactive and are actively addressing your concerns and desire to protect yourself by ensuring that a sterilisation has a zero failure rate.
Yeah--though to be fair, I don't actually think that a bilateral epididymectomy has a zero failure rate. After all, the vas deferens could still grow and attach itself to the place on the testicle where the epiddymis used to be attached to. However, the odds of an accidental pregnancy are nevertheless likely to be much lower since one's sperm are simply not going to be motile enough to fertilize a woman's eggs. This is why AFAIK artificial insemination doesn't work with testicular (as opposed to epididymal) sperm--the sperm in the testicles simply aren't motile enough.
Of course, it would be even better if the entire vas deferens on both sides was removed together with the entire epididymis on both sides. However, that is going to be a much more invasive and likely expensive surgery and I certainly don't have tens of thousands of dollars to spend on this! Thus, I'll have to settle for what I can get at a relatively decent price--and that is likely going to mean the removal of my entire epididymis on both sides and the removal of my entire scrotal vas deferens on both sides but perhaps nothing beyond that. Still, even this is going to be much, much better than a simple vasectomy.